Thursday, April 17, 2014

Pre-Baby To Do List

6 months from now we'll be welcoming another little one to our family. It also happens to be the start of the fall season. Now that spring and summer are upon us, we've been thinking of all of the things that we hope to accomplish before the new baby comes. 6 months seems like a long time until you start to break it down to free weekends and the list starts piling up. It already stresses me out... but I've tried to compile all of the things that we want to do as a family and project wise in the next 6 months.

As a Family of Three
  1. Go to the Omaha zoo. We had talked about doing this last summer, but B was too little to enjoy it. We're planning on making this trip with us and Mr. A's family. I am hoping we can do it before it gets too hot and I get too huge.
  2. Go camping. I want to make a few camping trips this summer. We're planning on going down to Kansas on Memorial Day weekend to camp for a few days with my mom and her husband's family. This was a tradition before B was born and the past two years we have skipped it because B was too young. I also want to make a weekend trip to the lake near our house to tent camp with just us. Then we've talked about doing a sibling camping weekend with Mr. A's brother and sister and their significant others. B would go stay with grandma that time.
  3. Go to the Lincoln Children's Museum. I know that B would really enjoy this and it could be a day trip for us, so I want to fit it in sometime.
  4. Make a trip to my dad's farm. My dad has a super busy work schedule, so we sadly don't make it out there as often as I would like. I am bound and determined to line up our schedules so we can spend a weekend at the farm with my sister and niece. I know the kids would love the free space, the chickens, and the cows. 
There are countless other things that I want to do with B before the new baby comes but these are the big things. I want him to know that just because he'll have a brother or sister, doesn't mean that all of the fun is over and we won't be able to make new memories. 

Projects
  1. Paint the master bathroom. We eventually want to gut and redo this entire room, but realistically that isn't happening ANYTIME soon. So I am on a mission to update and de-ugly this room. Fix the cracked and chipping paint and freshen things up. We're planning on doing this next weekend, so I will keep you updated.
  2. Paint the living room. This will be a big project since it's the heart of our home and there are a ton of large furniture pieces. We will have to paint the hallway, ceiling, and walls. I am looking forward to this SOOOOO much. I cannot wait to have this room done. We just need to line up a long weekend when my mom can come and get B and we can work work work.
  3. Finish the main bathroom. We are still living in a temporary flooring state until Mr. A's dad is off work for the summer and can come and help us. We have the new flooring and toilet purchased. Mr. A and his dad will do the subfloor repairs, lay new underlayment, lay the tile, and install the new toilet. We have bigger plans for this bathroom, but if we can just get the flooring and toilet taken care of, I will be a happy camper. 
  4. Paint and prepare the nursery. I already have a plan to turn the spare bedroom into the nursery. It'll take a little paint and moving the nursery furniture from B's room. This means B gets a new bed and a new dresser. 
  5. Freshen up the yard. When we moved in last summer, the grass and shrubs were too far gone to mess with. We've already done a spring treatment on the lawn and we plan on tackling trimming and mulching in May. It's been neglected for a few years, things just need a little facelift. I also want to plant a few annuals in pots around the back and front yard to add some color. 
  6. Smaller maintenance projects. We need to weather strip the front door, re-caulk around some windows, and do some other little summer projects to get ready for fall and winter.
This list is the one that stresses me out. I know we have our work cut out for us... especially Mr. A. I am being realistic though when I think that our time will be so limited when we have a new baby and I want to have all of the "simple" stuff done before then. 

All in all, I hope that we can accomplish these things before the new baby comes... and if we can't... oh well! I like to think of this as a list of goals. We can strive to do what we can, and what we don't get done can always wait until tomorrow.

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

A Day in the Life of the A's #2

I haven't done one of these since B was 15 months old and we were still living in our old house. He's now 25 months old and we've been living in our new house for almost a year. He's much more independent and I'm 14 weeks pregnant and still combating nasty preggo symptoms.


Monday, April 14, 2014

6:15- Mr's A's alarm goes off. He gets up and gets ready for work.

6:50- He gives me a kiss and tells me goodbye. I fall back asleep.

7:50- B wakes up for the day, knocks the baby gate over, and walks into my room. I pull him into bed with me and put some cartoons on the TV so I can gradually wake up and not feel sick.


8:15- He requests milk, so I go to the kitchen and grab him a drink and give it to him and lay back down. I check my phone while he watches TV and runs around the bedroom.

8:55- We finally get up out of bed. We go to the kitchen. B cooks me some "food" in his play kitchen while I get us some peanut butter toast and make me some decaf coffee. I put B in his chair and he starts to eat his toast. I have a bad headache so I take some Tylenol and try and keep down my food. I read a few blogs while B watches cartoons.

9:30- B is finally done eating. I wipe him down and take him to his room to get him changed and dressed for the day.

9:45- I make our bed and tidy up B's room. I get dressed and ready for the day while B plays toys in the living room.


10:00- I am way behind on laundry since we went out of town for 3 days. I start sorting clothes and start the first load.


10:30- I enlist B's help to unload the dishwasher. He is always eager to help me. I put all of the dishes away and clean up the kitchen and the breakfast mess in the dining room.


11:00- I'm done cleaning up the kitchen. I throw clothes in the dryer and start the 2nd load of laundry. I reheat my coffee for the 2nd time and finally get to sit down to play with B.

11:15- B and I play blocks, puzzles, & play on the Leap Pad. I enjoy my coffee and time with my boy.

12:15- I start lunch. We don't have any leftovers, so I scrounge up some canned soup over rice from the pantry. 

12:30- B and I sit down to eat lunch. B doesn't like it and starts smashing all of the carrots and making a huge mess. He eats a few bites and I give him some apples. 

12:50- We're done eating, so I wipe B down and clean off the table and the highchair. 

1:10- I clean up the dishes, fold some clothes, start another load of laundry, and then cuddle on the couch with B while he winds down before nap time. He's getting grouchy and sleepy.


1:35- I change B and put him down for a nap. He falls asleep immediately. I clean up all of the toys and take some Tylenol again for my bad headache.

2:00-3:30- I try and rest to see if I can get rid of my headache. I watch some recorded shows and take a little cat nap until B wakes up.


3:30- B wakes up and comes and climbs on the couch with me. He requests a movie. We put on Finding Nemo and I get him a snack and some juice.

4:00- I work on menu planning for the week and text Mr. A what I need at the store so he can pick it up after he gets off work. B and I watch the movie and play toys.

5:15- Mr. A walks in with the groceries. I purchased a baby carrier on the classifieds and she showed up to drop it off. Mr. A changes his clothes and helps me load B into the new carrier to test it out. He didn't really like it. He kept saying "stuck". 


5:45- Mr. A heads to Shopko to get some tent stakes to keep the sandbox tarp from flying off. I put away the groceries.

6:00- I start supper and Mr. A comes home and fixes the tarp.

6:30- Supper is ready. We have chili soup and cinnamon rolls. We sit down to eat and watch Wheel of Fortune as we talk about our day.

7:15- We're done eating and Mr. A runs B's bath and bathes him while I clean up the supper mess and dishes. 

8:00- I sit down and nurse my pounding head. I decide to take a shower to see if it helps with my headache.

8:30- Me and my boys cuddle on the couch and watch TV while B winds down for bed.

9:00- We start the bedtime routine and brush teeth, get a drink, change diaper, say prayers, and put B to bed. He gets up a couple of times but falls asleep rather quickly. 

9:30- Mr. A and I watch FNA America and an episode of Cops and talk. We try and decide whether we want to try and get up to see the lunar eclipse. 

10:45- Time for bed. Mr. A takes a shower and we brush our teeth, check on B, and go to sleep.

1:40- B wakes up yelling for me because he lost his binky. I walk in like a zombie and find it for him. I take a peek at the moon. It's a partial eclipse. I decide to not get up again to see the rest of it. Back to bed I go...

6:15- Mr. A's alarm goes off... time to start all over again.



This day didn't go as planned because of my relentless headache. I debated on whether I should even post this or just plan a different day... but this is real life and unfortunately this is how it's been off and on for the past 3 months. 
So there you have it. A very real, boring day at the A's.

Thursday, April 10, 2014

A Day at the Circus

We ventured to the circus last Saturday and met a few family members there. We ate at Olive Garden and then headed to the coliseum that afternoon. We had a rough start because as we were pulling into the parking lot, B vomited all over himself in his carseat. It scared the daylights out of us because he was choking. After we got him and the car all cleaned up, we were able to take our seats and get ready for the show. My sister and niece were able to come and it was so fun watching the kids experience it together.
This was by far the biggest thing B has ever witnessed. There were a TON of people and it was loud with a lot of lights. At first I don't think he felt well so he sat on our laps and quietly watched and clapped every so often. After the first few acts, he started to get more interested and it probably helped that he had a light-up sword to keep him happy. He really enjoyed the tigers, horses, and elephants. During the intermissions we got a chance to snap a few photos.

It was a great day! I love making memories like this with our little family. I look forward to doing more fun things in the future.

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Second Pregnancy: A Different Ballgame

The past 13 weeks have shown me how true it is that each pregnancy is different. This pregnancy has been completely different than when I was pregnant with B.
  • With B I had mild/moderate morning sickness in the evenings and only vomited once. This time I have been extremely sick and the food aversions are out of this world. I can barely find anything appetizing to eat at all. Thankfully it's beginning to fade away after its last hurrah of not being able to stomach any food for 5 days straight. 
  • I was working when I was pregnant with B and I kept fairly busy. This time, the fatigue has been almost unbearable. From 5-10 weeks I was taking a nap almost every day while B slept and I barely got anything done. I think that staying home and running after a very active toddler has a lot to do with that and also the fact that I feel sick almost all day. I am finally getting my energy back and feeling like a normal mom/wife again.
  • With B I didn't have any problems until later on when I went into pre-term labor at 33 weeks. This time I had bleeding at 7 1/2 weeks and it scared me to death. I went in and they did bloodwork and an ultrasound and everything was fine but I had borderline low progesterone. I was prescribed progesterone supplements once a day until 12 weeks. 
    7 weeks (baby on the left)

  • I didn't show with B until 16-18 weeks. This time it has been really hard to hide that I'm pregnant. I have a baby bump and it likes to make itself known. I bought myself a Bella Band to get a little more wear out of my pre-preggo clothes. It's pretty comfortable and I think it'll help transition to maternity clothes later on.
To say the least, I am so glad that the first trimester is over and I can start to feel human again. In a short 7 weeks, we'll be getting our 20 week ultrasound to find out if we're having a little boy or girl. We've had a couple of ultrasounds so far (Mr. A works as a rad tech and can do them himself) and so far so good. It looks like we have a healthy little wiggly baby in there and that's the most important thing! 
10 1/2 weeks

B doesn't really understand what's going on but he knows there's a baby in mommy's tummy and he sometimes looks for it by lifting my shirt. I think he thinks we're playing pretend. He's in for a big shock in 6 months! 

We will do our best to prepare him for being a big brother and we have a lot of changes that will have to be addressed (potty training, a bigger bed, and possibly taking away the binky) and I will share those things as we go along as well as updates on how things are going with the pregnancy.

Monday, April 7, 2014

3 + 1 = 4

That's right! We're adding another little A to our family! I've been busting at the seams to share this news with you. We couldn't be more excited to become a family of four!! I'll keep you updated on all things baby and B becoming a big brother.

Thursday, April 3, 2014

The Big T-W-O

We celebrated B's 2nd birthday with a Mickey Mouse party and lots of family! We had sub sandwiches for lunch followed by homemade ice cream and Mickey Mouse cake that I baked and decorated for my boy. He blew out his candle and opened a ton of gifts. It was a great day!


Monday, March 31, 2014

THE BIG BOY BED

See how the title is in all caps??? Because this is big, people... as in BIG boy bed.

One lovely afternoon, B decided that he didn't want to take a nap. I went in there a few times to check on him and tell him it was time for nap. The last time I went to check on him, I walked in to find him straddling the top railing slowly tipping headfirst towards the ground. Talk about a heart attack. Holy crap!! He could have broke his neck. I quickly grabbed him and decided we were skipping nap for the day. It wasn't worth getting injured. As soon as Mr. A got home, we removed the side rail of the crib. I rolled up a blanket and slipped it under the free edge of the sheet to act as a guard to keep him from rolling out.
The first two nights and the first two naps went really well! Our initial thought was... wow! How simple!! Then he learned that he could get out of bed... and the battle began. That was two months ago. I wanted to wait and write this post so I could be honest about the process.
Whenever nap or bedtime rolled around, we did the same routine, laid him down, said prayers, lots of kisses and shut the door. Sometimes the fight would last 30 min sometimes over an hour. We added a nightlight and a baby gate to his room to keep him from wandering around. We tried every method in the book to get this boy to stay in bed

1. Be consistent and put him back in bed without any contact or communication (supernanny style) over and over and over no matter how long it took. This didn't work. He thought it was a game and would get out on purpose because he knew we'd be right back in there to get him. He'd giggle and run away.

2. Scolding him. We would warn him and then scold him and put him back in bed every time. This didn't work either. It was a waste of breath.

3. Swatting his butt. This was a last resort type thing if he would consistently get out after being scolded and put back in bed countless times. This also didn't work. We would threaten to swat him and he would still get out. All it did was cause us to feel guilty and make him whine or cry.

4. Taking binky away. He only gets his binky when it's time for sleeping. We would warn him and then take it away for a few minutes while we stood in the hallway. We would tell him if he got out of bed to get back in bed and after a few times give him back his bink if he promised to stay in bed. This seemed to work sometimes. He hated having his bink taken away.

5. Time out. Finally after an hr and a half fight at naptime, I was so exhausted from putting him back in bed that I sat him in the corner in his dark room for a few minutes without any eye contact. I made him sit and not touch anything. He didn't like that because that took the control away from him. I would let him get up and go back to bed and if he got up again he would go back into timeout for a few more minutes. This seemed to work too after a few times of sitting in the corner.

6. Taking all of his stuff away. And here we have a winner folks! This has proven to be the most effective method of getting him to stay in bed. We warn him once and if he continues to get up (which he always does at least once) then we take away everything from his crib and stand in the hall and close the door. He hates this. No binky, blankies, pillow, or stuffed animals. All of his attachment items are gone and he's left in an empty bed. He cries and goes to the door but we send him back to bed for awhile with no stuff. After a short time, we return his things if he agrees to stay in bed. We usually only have to do this once and he stays in bed and goes to sleep.

The bottom line... I think he was a little young to move out of the crib, but it was bound to happen eventually. He definitely knows he's not supposed to get out. He's a very stubborn and smart little boy and that has made it very challenging. I'm happy to report that two months later, the fight is slowly subsiding. I wanted to share the good, bad, and ugly with our situation so I can possibly help any other struggling parent out there who is at their wits end. All I can say is... good luck!!